HOW TO PROTECT YOUR HUSBAND FROM OTHER WOMEN:PUT HIM IN A HUSBAND DAY CARE CENTRE
Seldom does a month go by that we do not hear of the news or stories of another moral collapse in a marital circle.
Most women believe this disaster is often preventable. I’m not saying you can guarantee a husband’s faithfulness, as if it’s your fault if he eloped with another woman. You can do everything right and lose your children, and the same is true for your husband. That’s free will. But you can cut down on the odds, but the thing is....
1. Understand your man!
Men frequently have a stronger desires than women, at least in the early years of marriage, men often struggle with temptation to impure thoughts more often than women. All of these are, of course, generalizations. They are the averages. If your man doesn't fit this description, it doesn't mean he is weird or abnormal – just that he’s not average.
Why know your man? Because the key to bedmatic satisfaction in marriage will be understanding each other. Learn your husband's needs and desires. Talk with him some secret things about you. Let him know how Jealous you are as to entertaining other female competitors. Study your man carefully to discover how you can light his fire. After all, someone else with designs on him might be doing that this very week. You may not even think he’s that attractive any more, but his position, power, prestige, and even his spiritual commitment makes him a special target for other women. Study hard, learn your husband’s ways, so you can beat them all to it!
2. Lighten up!
If you haven’t learned to lighten up, your attitude probably makes you “motherly” with your husband. What a turn off! You're not his mom, neither are you his spiritual authority or watchdog. Lighten up. Some wives feel that if they start to really enjoy marital desires it will ignite some sort of fire in their husband and he'll go off the deep end. Give him an inch, and he'll take a mile, you say. Wrong. Indeed, the very opposite may occur. Do what you can do best to own and keep your husband. Believe it or not, he is among your properties to be protected from Snatchers.
3. Share your Radar alerts!
Women have a sixth sense about other women. They can spot a “strange woman” who has desires on your husband a mile away. They can even sense which kind of woman would be attractive to him. It’s imbibed in all women to sense strange things, it's a God-given radar alert.
Why do you think you have this early warning system? To ignite jealousy? No. You are supposed to share these impressions with your husband. And share them before they turn green with jealousy. Then the two of you can protect your marriage. Share your radar alerts quickly before it turns to jealousy. And, he should learn to listen. When you are right, your husband will start to trust your radar, so you must be careful to use your natural in-built Radar system well for your husbands and so that when you go 'Beep Beep Beep,' he will swerve! Share and you may save him from total moral disaster.
4. Keep the fire hot at home!
The single best thing you can do to protect your husband from other women is to keep your own fire hot at home. Take care of yourself – at least try. Take time to be romantic, especially throughout the day, (go ahead and call him at his office and say something surprising!)
Good body expression takes time and forethought. (Some of you will never have truly satisfying moments until you slow down – you're simply too frazzled.) Take a nap. Get the kids to bed early. Take time to listen to your husband. Learn to look him in the eye. Flirt with him. Buy a surprising nighty. Learn to relax. Learn to like yourself; develop confidence.
Learn what causes him satisfaction and excites him. Admire his physique. Get a bit silly sometimes. Do something crazy. Initiate things once in a while. Find out how he wants you to dress for him and then do it.
When the fire’s hot at home, he’s less likely to be warming his hands somewhere else. Get interested in this subject before it’s too late. Someone out there considers your husband attractive. They'd love to have him for their own. Fight back! Protect him, by working at your relationship. A marriage is a terrible thing to waste.
Now, what about you?
What ever happened to self-discipline, restraint, and moral conviction?
1. Beware of emotional adultery.
Is there a particular man meeting your emotional needs – more than your husband? Is there someone at work, or at Party meeting who is feeding your ego and affirming you with warm words? He’s encouraging you and showing care for you as a person? Is there a man who takes time for you, talking about little things? Is there a man who is your best listener? Is there someone you just spend lots of time with? DO you enjoy his company? Is there any man you’d miss sorely if you had to move?
If there is someone meeting these emotional needs WATCH OUT! You are playing with fire. Every woman agreed that an emotional attachment preceded the adultery.
It all starts with an innocent glance, a whispered phrase, a caring pat, a kind gesture, thoughtful word, or gentle hug. A hurried hand squeeze or double-meaning kidding. These are the danger signals. The devil makes them all seem so innocent and warm. But he does not show you the ultimate torment and anguish they yield.
If you've got such a relationship, break it off and run home. Don't wait another day. Stop going there. Quit the job. Find another person. Move, if you have to. You can’t scoop fire in your lap without getting burned. Emotional adultery gives birth to actual adultery sooner or later.
2. Don’t spend time alone with another man.
Is there one mane you keep wanting to be with? Perhaps the male partner of another couple you hang around with? Is there anyone who tried to arrange to be alone with you? DO you work in a “one woman office” – just you and your male counterpart? DO you practice music with one particular guy regularly?
Be careful. Sin demands opportunity. This desire is wrong…but if you grant desire no opportunity, you will be safe.
3. Control your thoughts.
Sure, women are not different – less physical and visual in their fantasies. They, too, are tempted by impure thoughts.
If you are hooked on soap operas, romance novels, or other forms of “women pornography” watch out. You are tempting yourself. If you are daydreaming of romantic, warm relational experiences with any man other than your husband, stop now. These are not innocent fantasies. They are lust and your thoughts will eventually lead to action. So clean up your extra marital romantical thoughtful life of fantasies.
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